things are so normal

Posted August 10, 2010

So this pregnancy is going very normal from my point of view.  My wife goes to her doctors appointments, she tells me when the baby is dancing in her tummy, and can't sleep much of the night -- just like all the other pregnancies she's had.  Just because kaylen has down syndrome doesn't mean there isn't going to be a lot of normal stuff along with the challenging stuff. 

I'm going to go out on a limb and predict that the birth will probably be a pretty standard birth with doctors, nurses, some really tight hand squeezing and some loud animal-like noises.  My wife will probably engage in some loud noise making as well.  I doubt kaylen is going to be born with a tail and fangs, and there probably won't be any members of men in black in attendance. 

lately I've been thinking that like all the other pregnancies it's real but it's not real.  it's difficult to wrap your mind around a coming baby until the little one actually gets here and then you get schmucked up side the face with reality.  No matter how much I try, no matter how much we talk about it, and no matter how much information we process regarding downs, its not going to really hit me until kaylen shows up and screams at me.  We've got two months to go and when the contractions start then I'll probably start having hear palpitations and anxiety and then to the hospital we'll go.  True there are some things different:  kim has to see a specialist obgyn; we'll need to have the baby at a different hospital that has a nicu; we'll have to do some pre-planning and preparing based on different birth scenarios.   all in all it's as God intended it -- the birth of a child. 

 

stay kewl

D.

Comments

Sounds like you are just about ready. Yeah, no fangs at birth but just wait until those teeth do start coming in... lol, baby T-rex is in your future.

My son Isaiah has DS. We didn't know beforehand. I was just glad he made it (he was born at 25 weeks). I remember after he was born devouring book after book about DS. To be honest, none of it scared me more than the prematurity he was dealing with. When he finally go home I could really concentrate on what the DS meant for our family. Turns out, he may have a feature or two from the list of possible things that could affect him, but for the most part...he's the make up of myself and my husband. On that alone, LOOK OUT WORLD! Because it's not his 21st chromosome that bothers me...it's all the others. ;D

hey there,

I somehow found my way over to your blog. And the first thing I thought was that you are going to have to change the name of your blog once your baby is born! Because you won't be lost anymore... I had a prenatal blog too - http://www.mamamommyme.blogspot.com/ because I was also expecting a girl with Ds. But. My girl was born - has Ds indeed - and life is good. The waiting is the hardest. Not knowing what's what. Being scared.
Hang in there. All the best to you and your wife

We were told our baby might have Ds when I was prego so we went and has the ultrasound and they said that it looked like he didn't have it but the only way to kno for sure was to get the Amnio, but we didn't like the risks so we didn't do it. I guess u could say we had forgotten about all that, it's almost as if I just took it out of my brain and sat it on a shelf to come back to at a later date. So when the Dr came in after I had him and he said I think ur baby has Ds I felt more heartbroken than I could even imagine possible, and then I went to thy shelf and got that memory out and was like oh yea I forgot all about that! So they started setting us up on all these appointments, and when we went to the genetisist he said I kno this is very hard and confusing rite now now but in time u will thank God that it didn't turn out any other way, and then u will kno u have made it. Well our Liam is 6 1/2 months old now and a couple months ago we "made it". He is the most amazing baby, I would not have known how to ask God for such a baby. We have been very blessed he hasn't had any to the health risks that so many can have. I started crying one day and I told my husband, ya know when the dr started telling us y he thought he had it and started telling all the characteristics that Liam had it was like he was saying ur baby looks defective to me and this is y.... Well those almond shaped eyes that he told us weren't right are my favorite feature of him. he has the most beautiful eyes and he doEs this this little squeeze flirt with them that'll make u melt, and when he is really happy they look like little rainbows. So good luck on the birth of your new baby, I kno u will be thanking God when u get to look into those little rainbows!

Yes it probably will be all normal, that's a good thing. You don't need any extra drama in the delivery room! Have you seen this yet? It's going around blogland and is definitely a good read.http://www.xavier.edu/familyresiliency/paul-daugherty-keynote.cfm

You are well prepared for the unknown. Wait til you meet that baby and then experience all the extraordinary joy that comes along with the Down syndrome. That'll probably be just as unexpected as when you received the initial diagnosis. Welcome to the journey.

I just came across your blog and read all your entries and feel like I want to say so much to you. The most important to me right now, though, is to really try to see if your wife can breastfeed (hoping you all might be anyway.) With the extra health issues our babies/children with Down syndrome can have, giving them that first wonderful, healthful start of breastmilk is absolutely unbeatable. Good luck and congratulations!!!

hi and congrats on your baby girl. i love her name by the way! my mayson was born at 37 weeks and surprised us with DS. She is an amazing addition to our family and wouldnt change her for anything! cant wait to hear about journey!

We need an update... how are you all doing?

Congrats on your upcoming addition! My daughter, Riley, was born with down syndrome in July. She has no fangs, but her whole face smiles when she's happy. She is very snuggly and is a joy to have. Check out my blog to see what it's like on the other side! Can't wait to hear how everything goes with the two of you!

Again, Congrats!!

Where did you go????

Rock on

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